The Garden Taught Me
Someday I will be a master gardener.
For now, I will continue learning.
Last night, the frost took what was left of my first so-called garden. In reality, it was an unaesthetic array of potted plants and random lawn planted crops at the front of my house in a somewhat organized fashion. It was no masterpiece by anyones standard, but it was the work of my hands in all its glory (and lack thereof).
While it did not produce the amount of harvest I had hoped, I still did get harvest- both in produce and knowledge. I know I could’ve done much more to help it thrive, and I now know more technical things to help it do better. In this post, I won’t go over too much of the technicalities of my mistakes and learning, but I will share some of the basic lessons I learned about my garden and me. So here it is: a few things the garden taught me.

You Reap What You Sow
I planted green peppers. I watered, weeded, and took care of my green peppers. Finally after months of work, I started to see tiny green peppers begin to bud. I continued to take care of my pepper plants getting excited each day about possibilities they will bring to the table- literally. As time went on, I noticed my green peppers started to turn from green… to red!
Turns out my green peppers were actually red peppers, which was disappointing, because I prefer green peppers and I had expected green peppers. The truth of the matter is, I planted red peppers, so that’s what I got. I could’ve wished and hoped for green peppers to come forth from my plants but I would never get green peppers from my red pepper plants.
Wishing and hoping won’t get the desired results. Similarly, planting what you think will be good without paying attention to what is being planted will also lead to undesired results. When I am not being intentional or focused in life, I tend to sow qualities, habits, and thoughts that do not produce a desirable outcome. These things often lead me to reap bitterness, resentment, laziness, and ungratefulness. I am quick to become selfish when I am not sowing seeds that will produce love, freedom, discipline and a healthy, loving lifestyle.
Pay attention, plant seeds that bring a desired outcome, and you’ll reap what you sow.
The Harder You Work For It, The Better It Tastes
This year was the first time I’ve ever made my own homemade spaghetti and pizza sauce. It was SO much work to plant, weed, and harvest all my tomatoes. Let alone all the blanching, peeling, boiling down for hours that’s involved in making tomato based sauces. But I’ll tell ya what, that was the BEST dang spaghetti sauce I’ve ever had.
Was there anything special about the spaghetti sauce? Any secret ingredient? No. I followed a basic recipe. The thing that made it SO good was all the hard work I put into making it: Tending to my fresh basil and tomatoes, taking time to wash and prepare them, and cooking them down into a tasteful sauce.
What are you working so hard for? When I was weeding, it was real easy to have thoughts like, “What’s the point of all this? I think I am going to be done. Is it even worth it?”
Yes. It is worth it.
Keep grinding. Keep showing up to work, hitting the gym, parenting well, and weeding your garden. Don’t cheat yourself. Don’t stop putting in the time and effort into your goals. Soon enough the reward will come, and I’m telling you, it tastes SO good.


We Need Room To Grow
Another lesson I learned from the garden: there must be proper room to grow. I impulsively bought a bunch of plants without having made space for them. I also didn’t buy pots; and our soil might as well be classified as gravel. So, I grew my plants in random items such as totes, 5 gallon buckets, and tire rims. What I didn’t have a container for ended up being planted in the lawn- and by lawn, I mean mowed over thistles and weeds. (I don’t claim to be a proper gardener, and we have yet to make a real garden bed. Like I said at the beginning, I will be a master gardener someday. It was year one, and year one is made for mistakes, right?)
I digress, anyways, I planted 2 kale plants per tire rim. Turns out, they grow pretty big. In both tire rims, only one plant really flourished, while the other plant remained small. It still grew, but it was not nearly as fruitful. Although I still got some kale from all the plants, I realized that I would’ve been better off only planting one kale plant per tire rim than to have planted 4 plants between the two rims. Even the bigger plant in each tire rim did not reach its full potential because it didn’t have proper room to grow.
I cut myself short, by ignoring the needs of the plant. It leads me to think about all the “good things” I’m trying to cram into my life without allowing myself any room to grow properly in any specific area. Maybe instead of trying to build 18 healthy habits at once, I need to focus on just a few. Maybe less really is more. Maybe I have what I need, but I haven’t given myself room to grow.

Have Faith In What You Can't See
I know it only takes a few weeks for bean plants to sprout from seed, but those weeks are the longest weeks ever! Everyday for weeks, I would check on my beans to see if they were sprouting yet. My husband took notice of my impatience and joked, “Are your bean plants ever going to grow?” to playfully antagonize and expose my unrealistic expectation.
Honestly, I didn’t know. I didn’t know if they were growing in there or if they all drowned and would never come to be. If I dug them up to check on them, I would disturb the beans and possibly kill them if they did happen to be alive and well.
I had to have faith that those little bean seeds were growing, even if I couldn’t see them. I had to trust that they are doing what seeds are made to do down in the dirt; and that they would someday grow to be delightful green beans.
Sure enough, my bean plants sprouted. Although it was much more fun seeing the plants grow above the dirt, I had to have faith in what I couldn’t see. I had to believe that they were maturing and growing. I had to leave them sit underneath the soil and continue to tend to them, when all I wanted to do was to dig them up to see what was happening.
I don’t always see the growth happening in my life and others. I don’t see my toddler connecting the dots in his head on how to make up a proper sentence. Yet, one day he says, “I want more milk.” rather than screaming milk at the top of his lungs in frustration, because it’s the only word he knows. I don’t see my husband pondering ways to make me feel loved, but he makes me dinner when I’m sick and handles all the kids’ needs when he gets home from work. I don’t see my muscles tearing and repairing to become stronger until I am able to lift heavier weights with ease.
I don’t see God moving in my life, until something happens that I can understand or sense, and I realize that He was working all along. It’s things like this that remind me to have faith in what I can’t see.
Plant The Seeds
Plant the seed, and it will grow. Some seeds you need to take good care of for them to flourish, some seeds seem to easily grow on their own. The constant is that they need to be planted first.
I tried backing up a trailer. It didn’t go well.
I ended up knocking over a container of field corn kernels. I picked up as much as I could and put them back into my now cracked and broken container. Shortly thereafter, I had corn growing where it had been knocked over, which happened to be where some of my tomatoes were growing. I did not have to do ANYTHING for the corn to grow, yet it grew.
The reason this stuck out to me was because seeds are like our thoughts: what we plant in our minds will grow. Some thoughts take diligent work. Some grow without any help at all. Some thoughts are really good and are worth watering and tending to. Some thoughts need to be uprooted immediately.
Are we planting seeds in our minds that will grow love and compassion? Or are we planting seeds that grow bitterness, fear, or hate?
I know I have some introspection to do on what seeds have already been planted that I need to uproot. Even if I didn’t mean to plant them, they will continue to grow if they aren’t dealt with. Planted seeds will grow. So, plant the seeds that will produce something good.
Pick While The Picking Is Good
I LOVE green onions. Those dainty bright green onions make for the perfect topping to almost any savory dish! I love the color, the crunch, the flavor- it makes for the ultimate garnish.
Despite my love, I planted only 4-5 of them in a pot. When they finally grew to maturity, I used one or two and left the rest in the pot. I told myself that they will continue to grow, and I should use them sparingly since I only have a few. I refrained from using them as much as I wanted so that I would still have some left for “later.”
After a while, my green onion plants began to wilt. It wasn’t until then that I realized my mistake. They don’t last forever. My onions would not turn into enormous ever-growing onions. I missed my opportunity to pick them while they were at their best. Of course, I still picked them and ate the base and what was not wilted, but they weren’t what they could’ve been. Some of them even lost their green tops altogether!
Opportunities come and go. I so easily forget that things are always changing. What I have now, will not be this way forever. My kids will not be so young and excited to hear what I have to say. My body will not always be able to climb mountains. I might not always have the opportunity to take the job that’s currently available to me.
Opportunities are not there for long, and they aren’t supposed to be. However, that doesn’t mean we should take them out of fear of losing or missing out on them. Take them, because you want them! Take them because you can make the most of that opportunity right now. Take the opportunity as it presents itself, because it won’t always be there.


Sharing Is Caring
Receiving fresh garden produce throughout the years has been such a gift for me! From my grandma and from friends, it never gets old to get homegrown foods. I couldn’t wait to be able to pay it forward with crops of my own.
My garden was small, but I was still able to give away some fresh vegetables. Not only that, but I was also able to trade my produce for other produce that I hadn’t planted! My neighbor gave me a bunch of fresh carrots, and I was able to give her a bunch of kale in return. It was such a blessing! Don’t underestimate the power of seemingly “little” gifts. Use what you have, and use it for good. Sharing really is caring.
Even when I become a master gardener, I know there will still be lessons for me. I am so grateful for what the garden has taught me. Maybe you don’t have a garden or you believe it is not worth your work, that’s okay. We all have something we are working on.
What lessons are you learning from that?
What is your marriage teaching you?
What are you gleaning from motherhood and your children?
How is your work challenging you to grow?
Where is God working in your life right now?
What has happened this week in your life that caused you to see life differently or shift you perspective?
We all have the great opportunity to grow, learn, and be taught. Everyday is gift, along with everything in it. I hope you enter today with an attitude of gratefulness and openness to what may be in store for you. Additionally, I hope that both you and your future goals and gardens fiercely flourish.
Did You Plant a Garden This Year?
Tell me in the comments what you planted!
I would LOVE to know!
In my garden this year I had planted:
- Tomatoes
- Kale
- Green Onions
- Cabbages
- Green (and Red) Peppers
- Green Beans
- Basil
- Parsley

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